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Quite possibly the ultimate list of terms, definitions and acronyms ever compiled related to the world of swinging. Some you may, some you may not, have ever heard !

 

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Acronyms

Bi: Bisexual

Bi: Curious Heterosexual interested in having a sexual experience with a person of the same sex

Bi: Comfortable Heterosexuals comfortable around bisexuals OR heterosexuals willing to engage in sexual acts with individuals of the same sex (but are not bisexual or gay)

BiF: Bisexual Female

BiM: Bisexual Male

BiMF: Bisexual Married Female

BiMM: Bisexual Married Male

BDSM: Bondage/Discipline/Domination/Submission/Sadism/Masochism

CD: Cross-dresser

CPL: Couple

DBF: Divorced Black Female

DBM: Divorced Black Male

DDF: Drug and Disease Free

Dom: Dominant (male)

Domme: Dominant (female)

DP: Double Penetration

D/S: Domination/Submission

DWF: Divorced White Female

DWM: Divorced White Male

DTF: Down to fuck

F2F: Face-to-Face

F4F: Women For Woman

F4M: Women For Man

F4MF: Women For Man Women

GBF: Gay Black Female

GBM: Gay Black Male

GWF: Gay White Female

GWM: Gay White Male

HWP: Height/Weight Proportional

ISO: In Search Of

LTR: Long Term Relationship

LFG: Looking for a group

LDR: Long Distance Relationship

LGBT: Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender

LGBTQ: Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer or Questioning

LGBTQ: Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, 2/Two-Spirit, Queer or Questioning, Intersex, Asexual, Ally

LS: Lifestyle

M4M: Man For Men

M4W: Man For Women

MBA: Married But Available

MBF: Married Black Female

MBM: Married Black Male

MF4MF: Man Women For Man Women

MF4F: Man Women For Women

MF4M: Man Women For Man

MJF: Married Jewish Female

MJM: Married Jewish Male

MM: Married Men

MWC: Married With Children

MWF: Married White Female

MWM: Married White Male

NSA: No Strings Attached

PF: Professional Female

PM: Professional Male

RPG: Role Playing Games

SAF: Single Asian Female

SAM: Single Asian Male

SALT: Single and Loving It

SBF: Single Black Female

SBM: Single Black Male

SCF: Single Christian Female

SCM: Single Christian Male

SHF: Single Hispanic Female

SHM: Single Hispanic Male

SINK: Single Income No Kids

SJF: Single Jewish Female

SJM: Single Jewish Male

SM: Sadism/Masochism (S&M)

SOH: Sense of Humor

Sub: Submissive

SWF: Single White Female

SWM: Single White Male

SO: Significant Other

TV: Transvestite

TS: Transsexual

VDP: Vaginal Double Penetration

W4M: Women For Men

W4W: Women For Women

W/E: Well-endowed

WLTM: Would Like To Meet

XOXO: Hugs and Kisses

420: Someone who is marijuana friendly

A

AC/DC: Anyone who enjoys both the same sex and opposite sex sexual activity; Bi; Bisexual

ADULT: Sexually oriented material; Pornographic

ALL CULTURES: Person or couple who enjoys any and all fetishes and sexual activities

AMERICAN CULTURE: The man on top, basic missionary position

ANAL SEX /GREEK CULTURE: Anal intercourse; �Butt stuff.�

ANALINGU: Oral contact or stimulation of the anus of one partner by kissing, licking, or sucking of the other; �Eating ass.�

ARTS: Euphemism for fetishes.

B

BANGOVER: When you’ve got a wicked hangover and your pussy hurts…usually a sign of a good night

BAREBACK: Sex without a condom

B&D, B/D, or BDSM: Bondage and discipline; use of various methods to restrain someone while administering discipline, usually done by a “master” to his/her “slave.� Including sometimes sadomasochism/sadism when lumped in as BDSM

BI/Bisexual: Has sexual relationships with males and females (see AC/DC)

BI-CURIOUS: A Male or Female who is interested in trying same-sex activities

BIZARRE: Unusual sexual desires, as compared to your average person

BONDAGE: A sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. The person doing the binding is considered “dominant” while the person being bound is considered “submissive.”

BULL: Within the context of cuckolding, a bull is a sexually dominant male who becomes involved with people in cuckold relationships. A bull has sex with the women in these relationships while possibly humiliating or cuckolding their male partners

A bull may also be called a cuckold bull, a swinger bull, or an alpha male, although this term isn�t used exclusively to describe bulls. The term bull can also be used in a general way to refer to any male involved with a couple regardless of his specific role (bull, boyfriend or Dom). Just as a General is also still a soldier, but the reverse isn�t typically true, a Dom is also a bull

C

CAN ENTERTAIN AND/OR TRAVEL : Person willing to invite others to their home for swinging and/or willing to travel to your home to swing

CANING : A spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light wood

CHEATING: Sexual activity with others without spouse’s knowledge and/or consent. Also see �not cool.�

CLEAN : Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases

CLOSED DOOR/CLOSED SWINGING: Sexual interaction among couples using separate rooms, usually in the same house. Provides a maximum of privacy

CLOSET SWINGER: A person who hides the fact that he/she is a swinger

COUPLE/CPL: In swinging, a man and a woman. May be married, living together, committed (on going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes

CUCKOLD: While the originally meaning is the husband of a wife who cheats, it has come to mean (more often than not) a husband whose wife plays without him and comes home to tell him about it. It can also mean a husband who watches his wife play with others, or is forced to watch. This can also be reversed on the wife. There are a number of variations of the use of the word since it encompasses several things.

CULTURE: Euphemism for Fetish or Arts

CUNNILINGUS: Stimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue and lips, and sometimes the teeth. (Although it�s definitely best to ask first…ouch)

D

D&D Free: Drug and Disease free

DILDO: An artificial penis, usually made of rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation of the vagina and sometimes the anus

DIRECTOR: Term describes the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the director and is responsible for party or club operation whether or not for pay, is generally called a Manager

DISCIPLINE: A sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings

DISCREET OR DISCRETION: Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity

DOCILE : Willing to receive bondage and/or discipline

DOMESTIC TRAINING: Submissive obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating nature

DOMINANT: A sexual partner in control of a willing submissive partner

DP: Double penetration

DRAMA: Generally used to describe people who shouldn�t be swingers. They typically display aggression or jealousy while in the presence of others in the lifestyle

E

ELLIS: A generally accepted code name used to identify members of the swinging lifestyle. Ellis stands for L.S. (Lifestyle). The question “Are you a friend of Ellis?” can be used to help identify a member of the lifestyle without compromising confidentiality

ENGLISH CULTURE: Sexual stimulation from spanking or caning

EXHIBITIONIST: Behavior in which an individual experiences sexual arousal or pleasure from displaying his/her body. Enjoys being watched

F

FAMILY FIRST: Usually in an ad on a lifestyle site to indicate that the users have kids and may have issues making time for fun. Will probably take a little longer to get to know these couples

FELLATIO/FRENCH CULTURE: Sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth

FETISH: Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy

FLAGELLATION: Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking

FLUID BONDING: Unprotected sex including fluid exchange

FMF: Female/Male/FEMALE

FULL SWAP: Means the couple has penetrative sex with other couples

FUN AND GAMES: Euphemism for sexual activity

G

GAY: A homosexual person, male or female. A gay female may also be called a Lesbian

GANGBANG: Three or more males on a single female

GENEROUS: Refers to money for sex

GROUP ROOM: Room set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads. Term is prevalent in western US

GROUP SEX : Swinging; Sexual activity between three or more people

H

HALL PASS: A term to indicate that one or the other member of a couple has permission to have sex outside of the presence of the other person

HWP: Height/Weight/Proportionate

HARD CORE/HARD SWINING: A swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected

HEDONIST:Someone who lives for pleasure

HETEROSEXUAL: Sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex

HOMOSEXUAL : Sexual attraction to members of the same sex (gay).HORNY: Sexually tense; In need of sexual pleasure

HUNG: Refers to a man with a large penis

HWP: Height-Weight Proportionate; Someone who is at their ideal body weight

I

INDOOR/INDOOR SPORTS: Swinging activities in general

INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP: Seeks a swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational values

IRL: In Real Life; Used in ads or online chat

ISO: In Search Of; Used in ads; MWC ISO Single Female

 

L

LEATHER: A fetish; Sexual stimulation through the wearing or touching of leather or leather garments

LESBIAN: A woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women

LIFESTYLE: Another way of saying �swinger.�

LS: Short for �lifestyle.�

LTR: Long Term Relationship

M

MARITAL AIDS: Dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others

MASOCHISM: Sexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others

MASTER/SLAVE: Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship

MATROOM: room set aside for group sex. Principally an eastern US term (see group room)

MEET FOR PLEASURE: Will meet for swinging sex; no pretense for social or emotional interaction not directly related to sexual activity

MENAGE A’ TROIS : Three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction

MFM: Male/Female/Male

MFMF: Male/Female/Male/Female

MORESOMES: More than three people in a swinging interaction. (see Group Sex)

MUTUAL MASTURBATION: Masturbating in the presence of someone else

N

NASCA: The North American Swing Club Association. An association of swing clubs and magazines to promote swinging as the viable and beneficial lifestyle it has become

NEWCOMERS: New people in swinging; First-timers

NONSMOKER: Does not smoke. If used in personal ad means only those who do not smoke are sought for swinging purposes

NSA: no strings attached, that is purely for sexual activity

O

OFF-PREMISE: No swinging takes place at the club or party; you meet and make your own arrangements. Great for newcomers

OPEN DOOR/ OPEN SWINGING: A couple swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all participating couples together in the same room. A minimum of privacy

ORGY: Sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; Complete absence of inhibition in everyone taking part; group sex

P

PARTY: Gathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging

PARTY CLOTHES: Clothing particularly adapted for swing party wear, Includes wear to the party and wear to change into during the party. The latter includes robes, lingerie, terry cloth wrap-arounds and other simple wear that is easily removed, shows the wearer to best advantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily available for erotic courting and play

PARTY HOUSE (Western US): A non-membership swing club offering a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties

PASSIVE: Quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. Docile and submissive in swinging

P/P: Photo and phone number (used in personal ads)

PRO: Professional; i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts

R

RECREATIONAL SWINGER: A person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion; not interested in forming any long term friendship or emotional attachment

RESTRAINT: Mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments

ROMAN/ROMAN CULTURE: Group sex, orgies, the party scene, etc

RUBBER: Condom means of contraception; sexual stimulation through the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with B&D

S

SADISM: Sexual gratification through inflicting pain and humiliation on others

SAFE: Used to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who has had a vasectomy; Naturally or surgically sterile

SAME ROOM: Means a couple is willing to play within the same room as their spouse

SEPARATE ROOM: Means that the couple is willing to play at the same time in different rooms

S&M or S/M: Sadism and Masochism

SINGLE : A swinger without a partner, does not refer to marital status

SOCIAL: A party, dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. There is no swinging at a social, but privately arranged swinging may follow a social

SOCIAL SWING CLUB: A swing club, generally private membership that offers social and swinging activities including a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. They may also offer educational and travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee and either party fees, party donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues. Party attendance may be restricted to couples though the marital status of the couple is rarely important

SODOMY: Non-coital, especially anal or oral, copulation with either an opposite sex or same sex partner

SOFT SWINGERS: Couples who only have intercourse with their own partner. No swapping for intercourse

SOFT SWINGING/SRS : The term used to describe same-room sex, watching/being watched, or any sexual encounter up to, but not including intercourse, with someone other than your spouse. The first experience for many couples some type of soft-swinging

SPAGHETTISEXUAL: A female who is straight, that is…until she gets wet!

SPITROAST: Refers to a woman receiving a man from the front and back simultaneously

STD: Sexually Transmitted Disease. A term developed in the late 1970’s to replace VD as the latter carried social and moral implications in the minds of many. These social and moral implications interfered with the legitimate treatment of sexually transmitted diseases as a medical problem

STR or STR8/STRAIGHT: Any person who is not interested in engaging in homosexual activity or A person who does not use drugs; also used by swingers to denote non-swinging people

SUBMISSIVE: Passive, wishes to be dominated

SWAPPING: Two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity

SWEDISH CULTURE: Use of the hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate another

SWINGING: An alternative lifestyle for consenting adults who enjoy social, recreational sexual activities with others, most often on a couple-to-couple basis, with full knowledge and mutual consent of both partners; single men and women are sometimes involved

SWINGER INSURANCE: Sexual aid in order to get and maintain an erection, taken by males. Examples include: Viagra, Levitra, Cialis, etc

SWINGING LIFESTYLE: Style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships

SWINGING MARRIAGE: Marriage incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals

T

TAN: Tested Antibody Negative for HIV virus(AIDS)

THREESOME: Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter

TICKET: A person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the male to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention to swing or is not free to swing

TRIAD: Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome

TWINK: Young, attractive male homosexual person

U

UTOPIAN SWINGER: A person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals

V

V-SAFE: Means the male has a vasectomy

VAS-SAFE: Another way of saying V-SAFE

VERSATILE: Bisexual

VIBRATOR: Electrically run vibrating device for stimulation of the vagina by insertion or holding to outer lips, clitoris, breasts and the male penis. Some vibrators are penile shaped and are run by batteries while more expensive ones are for surface use and are run by an AC motor from a typical wall outlet. Vibrators are used by both men and women for self-stimulation and to sexually please another

VOLUPTUOUS: Fullness of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large well-formed breasts; may also refer to full but well formed hips

VOYEUR: A person who enjoys watching others in sexual acts

VOYEURISM: Sexual gratification by watching or peeping at others engaged in sexual activity

VWE: Very well endowed individual

W

WAY-OUTS/WEIRDOS: Those people interested in activities usually considered by the majority to be bizarre, kinky, unusual, or unconventional

W/E: Well endowed individual

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